Building a life you love

Coaching is a powerful way of identifying and building a life you love. You may be feeling stuck, stressed, sad or anxious. You may be frustrated that you’re not doing all the things you want to. Or that you can’t seem to stop sabotaging yourself and your goals. There are many, many reasons people reach out for a coach.

I work from a trauma-trained perspective so coaching with me is especially suited for people who may have been hurt in the past and struggle to find balance, energy or drive here and now. Coaching works well as an alternative to, or together with, therapy (there’s research on this!). One of the reasons coaching works is because it focuses on connection.

Connecting to self, to others, to the world

First, it helps us learn to safely connect to ourselves. When we know what is happening within us (and, sometimes, why), we can make choices in a meaningful way. We regain mastery of our own processes and direction in life.

Coaching is also about connecting to others. One of the things trauma does is to isolate us. Especially if we were harmed by other people. We may be afraid to be vulnerable with someone else. Afraid of being hurt again. The thought of letting someone into our world may feel dangerous or bring up shame, guilt, even anger or disgust. We may desperately want to be loved and cared for, to care for and love someone else, but not know how to make it happen. For many, working with a coach is the first time they have ever felt a true connection to a safe other. That is an essential foundation for growing nourishing connections in other areas of your life.

The third component is connecting to the world around us. For many of us, the world feels like a scary, sometimes violent place. And it can be. But it is also full of kindness, beauty, warmth and fun. This may get lost when everything feels dark, lonely and threatening. Trauma, especially developmental or early trauma, keeps us stuck in the dangerous, grimy, difficult parts of life. Coaching helps us hold onto the tender, nourishing side of life as well as equipping us to navigate the painful times with power and balance.

Information, skills and resources

To find your riotous resilience, you also need the right information, skills and resources. These equip us to understand, manage and change the feelings, thoughts and behaviours that otherwise overwhelm us. They clear the path for connection and for you to find and build the life you love. Coaching gives you access to all my expertise and experience, so that together we can help you build the skills and resources you need.

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My coaching approach

My approach prioritises six principles:

Safety – finding safety for you in your world, in your relationships, in your body.
Trustworthiness and transparency – my practices and approach are transparent and I will respect all of the trust you choose to place in me.
Peer support – I’m a professional who can help and I also understand trauma and resilience from the inside out – in my own way, I know what it’s like. I work to be sensitive to power imbalances between us and reduce them as much as I can.
Collaboration and mutuality – for as long as we work together, I am in this journey with you. You’re not alone. We will find solutions together.
Voice and choice – your voice, your choice is what counts. Your story is important and you get to choose your own way forward.
Identity, culture and history – who you are, where you came from, the community (communities) you live in matter. They are different for everyone and they have a range of positive and negative impacts that affect our experience of the world.

I offer a non-judgemental space with a trauma-trained professional (me!) who will listen, offer compassion and understanding, and help you to understand yourself. Together we will clarify what you want for yourself and I will bring guidance, information and practical resources to help you achieve it. I will encourage and support you when you get lost or stuck along the way. I have enormous respect for the resources trauma survivors already have inside themselves. You may not believe right now that you have any resources but I promise you, we will find them together. And building on them will give you more power and agency in your own life than you could imagine.